Monday, June 8, 2009

modern love...

Over drinks at The Triangle Lounge in Fremont this weekend, some friends and I were discussing books we had read recently and passing on suggestions. Tantalizing gossip, I know. Anyway, one of my friends mentioned that she had recently read a collection of The New York Times column, Modern Love, that runs each Sunday.

Always a sucker for a good love story, I grabbed my parents copy of the sunday Times, a hot cup of coffee, and settled in on the back deck in the late morning sun to get lost in a stranger's tale of modern love. This week's piece, First Comes Marriage, was written by an Indian man who found his perfect match in an arranged marriage. It was sweet and well-written.

Sufficiently rosy-cheeked and ready for more, I searched online for past columns. The first one I found was written by a 21-year-old senior at USC. He wrote about the oddity of asking a girl out on a date, and went on to describe, nearly pitch-perfect, the realities of romance in college.

As it turns out, this was one of the runners-up in the NY Times Modern Love College Essay Contest. The NY Times ran the winning essay back in May 2008, and published the runners-up each week for about a month. Curious to know how my peers viewed and articulated their views on love, I read all the other essays in rapid-fire succession. The USC guy's piece as well as the winning essay were outstanding. Their writing was humorous, thoughtful and honest.

After you've seen The Notebook, How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days or something like (yikes) Twilight a few too many times, a girl can become obsessed, depressed, and/or delusional when it comes to realities of love and relationships. It was refreshing and heartening to see some written truths of romance the way I (and countless others) see it: through strings of carefully plotted text messages, first and only dates, and drunken encounters at the bar - but through the eyes of optimism and veracity we 20-somethings always seem to maintain.

Here's to kissing a lot of frogs before you find a prince (or princess)...and loving every second of it.

For other sources of "modern love" check out Texts From Last Night, Hooking Up Smart, Ask Men, Em & Lo, and College Candy.

1 comment:

  1. What a darling couple...hehe

    Read the USC guy's piece. It was pretty good and I love reading stuff like that from a guy's perspective. Amazing.