Wednesday, April 16, 2014

REMEMBER THE 'COOL GIRL' PASSAGE FROM GONE GIRL?


I'm just going to assume you've already read Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. And if you haven't, you're insane and you have just received your required reading for the weekend. (Get it here.) I'm also assuming you probably flipped your lid when the first trailer for the movie, staring Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike was released earlier this week. (No? Here you go.)

Anyway, I listened to most of the book on audio with my parents during one of our annual road trips to Sun Valley, and finished the rest with a borrowed copy from this lady. (Which I still have, by the way! Eek!) Both in it's unique narrative and it's completely engrossing plot, Gone Girl is a powerful read, especially for women. I vividly remember listening to the below passage somewhere in middle-of-nowhere Oregon. I was in the backseat of the car kind of freaking out. The woman who narrates Amy's perspective does a brilliant job of bringing the page to life, and I cannot—I repeat cannot—wait to see how David Fincher handles the duel perspectives and telling flashbacks from the book on screen. (Alas, we must wait until the film debuts October 3, 2014.)

Every woman who read the book remembers this passage because it hits a nerve. Every woman who's ever feigned interest in football, in foreign films, in vegan food or chili dogs for a man knows exactly what Amy is talking about below. 
“Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl. 
Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”)”

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

{VIA LIFESTYLE MIRROR} 25 MAJOR MAD MEN FASHION MOMENTS...



Watching Mad Men is as much about the clothes as it is about the characters. In anticipation of the Season 7 premiere this Sunday (and sort of by accident), I recently re-watched quite a few episodes from the past six seasons. The show is definitely a thinking man's drama, with slow plot progression and serious focus on character development—much of which is illustrated through the costuming. It's worth watching if only to see what the Draper wives wear season after season. 

I reflected on all the amazing costuming and fashion moments from Mad Men over on Lifestyle Mirror today, and—not to toot my own horn, but—it's definitely worth a look. The costumes of each female character on Mad Men represents their place in the world as well as their understanding of it. 

I (rather painstakingly) went back through all six seasons to select 25 stunning looks from Betty, Megan, Peggy and Joan, as well as equally important fashion moments from young Sally Draper, Trudy Campbell and Jane Sterling. Not to mention, I threw in a few forgotten-yet-fashionable minor characters who all made an impact over their small arcs. Remember the scandalous widow Helen Bishop? What about the mysterious Joy from the Palm Springs episode? 

Anyway, Check out the story here and let's get pumped for Sunday.

MID-WEEK MUSIC MOMENT: DAN CROLL...


{ In then I'm out, out then I'm in and I'm on my way }

Sometimes all it takes is an unabashedly happy song to pull me out of a mid-week funk. My friend Pat introduced me to Dan Croll via Spotify last week, and I've been hooked ever since. As soon as I heard "In/Out" I was instantly lifted. It's quick and upbeat, and sounds like an electrified version of some of our favorite 80s and jams from Duran Duran, Bowie, etc. 

I found the accompanying music video over the weekend, and couldn't resist sharing it instead of just the MP3. It's so goofy and fun and colorful, it's just what your Wednesday needs, I'm sure of it. Enjoy "In/Out" above, and check out more of Dan Croll on Spotify.

*I went ahead and added this jam (plus a few others) to my #MarchMadness playlist, so keep checking back on that for a continually improving spring mix.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

{STYLING NOTES} THE LOW HEEL SANDAL I MUST HAVE...

low heel sandals
{ I'm having a very specific craving... }

It hit me suddenly this week—sandal season is coming. I haven't dared bare my toes yet, though I can't say the same for a few misguided soles souls here in NYC. However, temperatures are supposedly, finally going to reach the 60s this week, which reminded me of two things:

1. I really need a pedicure.
2. Most of my sandals from last year are so worn-down they desperately need to be replaced.

A few weeks ago I postulated about those quirky, sporty sandals that are so trendy at the moment—even Birkenstocks. And while those are still up for debate, the above style is not. I love the clean, unfussy look of these sandals, with a solid low heel and minimally detailed, substantial straps.

You know I'm not really one for high heels, so a stacked heel and simple design is all I'm looking for in summer. Enough lift to feel like a lady but the practicality of an everyday shoe. Perfect, right? My current obsessions are from Jeffrey Campbell and J. Crew, but I found quite a few more to drool over below, from Dolce Vita, Tory Burch and Loeffler Randall. 

Saturday, April 5, 2014

{SMELLS LIKE THE WEEKEND} ELIZABETH AND JAMES NIRVANA WHITE...


I'm one of those people who saves perfume and candles. You know the type. We hoard things that are meant to be used, and are actually quite useless when they are not. I think of my fancy Jo Malone candle (this one, it's literally heavenly) as a "special occasion candle" and same goes for the nice scents I wear. It's weird I know, and yolo and all that, but I can't help it.

Months ago, the lovely ladies at Elizabeth and James sent me a bottle of Nirvana White for Christmas. I was instantly in love with the masculine-meets-feminine scent. My roommate even commented that she thought the smell (peonies, muguet, and musk) complimented my natural chemistry better than my usual perfume.

Just as I only burn my fanciest candle sparingly, I pretty much only wear this perfume on weekends, dates or work days when I have important meetings. When I do, I feel pretty, confident and special. So, maybe I should start wearing it everyday after all...

You can snag Elizabeth and James Nirvana from Sephora, $75. 

Thursday, April 3, 2014

MID-WEEK MUSIC MOMENT: IVAN & ALYOSHA



{ But we've been trying with each other to unravel the age-old story, 
but I'm starting to think there's a reason we don't understand.  }

A day late but no less important, this week's MWMM is one of my best discoveries of late. Well, okay so I didn't discover them, truly—Spotify did it for me. Based on my enjoyment of The Oh Hello's and Lord Huron, Ivan & Alyosha was suggested to me. The "Discover" feature on Spotify really misses the mark sometimes, but in this case—what a slam dunk.

Their sound is a bit like The Head and the Heart, which is fun, considering Ivan & Alyosha is also a local Seattle band! It's easy, folk-rock listening for sure, and many of the songs have quite a catchy hook. The above, "Running For Cover," is just one example. 

The band is definitely still in that up-and-coming phase, but they've been featured on NPR, KEXP and in Spotify's Live Sessions. (The biggest artist they've opened for is Brandi Carlile, if that puts it in perspective.) Of course it's hard to say who will go big, but I hear a lot of potential in Ivan & Alyosha, and I think you guys will enjoy their vibe.

You can listen to all of their music on Spotify.

{DOUBLE TAKE} LET'S HAVE A MOMENT FOR EMMA WATSON...


{ Emma Watson in Ralph Lauren and Saint Laurent }

Remember when Emma Watson hit the red carpet at the Golden Globe Awards wearing #surprisepants? I was beside myself with all kinds of feelings—and the girl hasn't given us a moment's rest since. Post-awards season, Watson has been promoting her new film, Noah, and continues to show up places looking like everything I've ever wanted to be.

Most recently, she gave us two contrasting looks—one super feminine and the other very tomboy-chic. For an appearance on the Late Show With David Letterman, she wore a killer Saint Laurent tuxedo and Louboutin slingbacks, and at Noah's London premiere, she cut a seriously sexy line in a white, slit-up-to-there Ralph Lauren gown.

Which look do you like more?

It's also worth noting that in tandem with these outfits, Watson has been rocking the most envy-inducing, on-trend accessories game of any celeb at the moment. Ear cuffs, midi rings... All of it. Below, I found a few items inspired by the black-and-white contrasting looks above, as well as some similar jewelry picks, natch.



Barneys New York Rings · Editorialist Bracelets · Elizabeth and James Bracelets


*For more ladies looking stunning in tuxedos (especially those from Saint Laurent), scoot on over to my celeb style story on Lifestyle Mirror.