Friday, February 24, 2017

{ PLAYLIST } BAHAMARAMA...


Let's do a little imagination exercise. Pretend for a moment that you're not at your desk right now. You're barefoot, barely dressed and reclined on chaise with your body angled towards the warm sun. Beads of salt water are slowly evaporating off your skin. There's a rum drink sweating slightly in a festive glass on the table next to you, its little paper umbrella casting a small shadow over the best-selling paperback you bought at the airport. With the plush, dry terrycloth towel under your body and sunscreen reapplied, you reach for your earbuds and put them in. You press play, lie back and lower your sunglasses over your eyes. What do you hear?

That's the mindset I tried to put myself in as I created this playlist—most obviously because I am at this very moment on my way to the Bahamas with said best-selling paperback and plans to procure that rum drink as soon as possible—but also because we could all use a little auditory sunshine this time of year, right?

Oscillating between modern disco pop (The Knocks) and old school Pacific Ocean vibes (The Beach Boys), I wanted my Bahamas weekend soundtrack to feel like as much of an escape as the destination itself. I've got the requisite Jimmy Buffet and Bob Marley jams too, mixed up with some Drake, St. Lucia and Miguel. And because this is the site of the iconic Mary-Kate and Ashley film Holiday in the Sun, "Island in the Sun" is obviously in there, too.

// Take a listen below, it'll basically be like you're on vacation with me, I promise //


Image credit: Newsweek

Thursday, February 23, 2017

{ PACKING ESSENTIALS } LONG WEEKEND IN THE BAHAMAS...

{ Three Graces dressAmerican Eagle bandana / Quay Australia sunglasses / Brixton hat / BaubleBar earrings / Vans slip-ons / Turkish fouta / J. Crew one-piece swimsuit / Madewell sleep top and shorts / Aritzia blouse / J. Crew shorts / S'well bottle / Havaiana sandal / Marie Antoinette by Antonia Fraser }

You'll have to follow my Instagram to keep up with my adventures, but tomorrow I'll be en route to spend a long weekend in the Bahamas with my cousin. I can't wait to escape the dreary February vibes in New York and spend a few sun-soaked days with my toes in the sand and a straw hat on my head.

Since the trip is so short I'm not packing much—just a few swimsuits, sandals, an outfit for a golf lesson (I know), and a handful of breezy dresses for day and night. Blame it on the absolute takeover of "millennial pink," but I'm channeling a mostly white wardrobe with splashes of pastels and blush tones—a far cry from my usual all-black-and-navy routine.

I've had my eye on these festive Baublebar drop earrings for a while, and this little getaway was the push I needed to #addtocart. I'm also not particularly fond of white sunglasses in an everyday setting, but happen to think these Quay shades will work perfectly for the beach (and look amazing in selfies, natch). I've also had a revived interest in my girl Marie Antoinette lately, so I'm going to pick up this 2002 biography that was the basis for Sofia Coppola's movie (that I love with a passion).

Now the thing is—my dreams of this serene pastel vacation palette hinge entirely both on my ability to shop for a few things prior to my trip (easy enough) as well as being able to find where I've hidden all my summer clothes in the depths of my under-bed and over-closet storage. Stay tuned on that front, but meanwhile, shop a few of my packing essentials for yourself!

// SHOP MY BAHAMAS PACKING ESSENTIALS BELOW //

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

17 BITS OF TOTALLY ARBITRARY DATING ADVICE FOR 2017

It's that time of year again! In 2015, it was the Dating Manifesto. In 2016, I hit you with the Drake Guide to Dating. This year, the Year of Our Lord 2017—I feel obligated once again to take stock of my current attitude towards love, relationships and when it applies, the lack thereof. 

2016 was an interesting year for me romantically, but I honestly think I spent more time writing about dating than I spent actually dating. (Scoot over to Style Girlfriend to check out 5 Ways to Boost Your Confidence Before a Date, 10 Ways to Impress A Woman and 3 Style & Grooming Hacks to Try on Your Next First Date for proof.)

So here we are, it's Valentine's Day! (Dun dun dun!) The internet is practically bursting at the seams with relationship and dating advice this month, so figured I'd better to do my part to contribute to the noise. (Need gift ideas for your main man? Or the guy you just started dating? How about just for you?)

At this point, I'm quite good at coming up with advice that I have a hard time following myself, but it's never something that just comes to me out of the vacuum of space inside my mind. My friends, our conversations, and the romantic experiences we've all had are what help me articulate the tips and tidbits you read here.

Which brings me to my point: Is there anything new to say about dating in 2017? Has anything really changed in the last couple of years? I can't say for sure. I have a hard time distinguishing between actual changes in the broad sense and my shifting attitudes that are tied to my personal experience and of course, my age.

Nevertheless, I persisted. I grilled my friends and mined my own heart for ideas and advice that feel (at least somewhat) fresh right now. From mentality shifts to shifting locations, I hope you find these little nuggets (as arbitrary as they probably are) to be somewhat helpful.

// CLICK THROUGH FOR MY BEST DATING ADVICE FOR 2017 //

Friday, February 3, 2017

{ GIFT GUIDE } VALENTINE'S DAY GIFTS FOR EVERYONE—ESPECIALLY YOU


Oh god, Valentine's Day. Sorry, but that's honestly the first thing that comes to mind when I think of this holiday. A couple of years ago I wrote sort of an impulsive, almost rant-like post about how being single on Valentine's Day is very "chill." I don't know if I was trying to prove something to myself or what, but looking back, that post doesn't feel entirely honest.

I think my true feelings like somewhere between "Thank God it's on a Tuesday this year" and "If I'm being honest about myself, I really like wearing red and pink anyway!" And so, after that long and winding introduction—a little gift guide for ya!

A lot of the festively hued selections above are handily gender neutral—like a wine-colored pair of Vans sneakers and a delicious bottle of wine. (Montepulciano d'Abruzzo is my favorite affordable red!) See also: burgundy cashmere socks and an adventure-worthy backpack from Herschel Supply Co. (that's majorly on sale).

Same goes for fun, playful gifts like the gigantic Where to Eat Pizza book or a big box of my favorite (repeat, favorite) chocolate treat, Sees suckers. Perhaps you're looking for an excuse to treat yourself, and if so might I suggest Everlane's preppy new penny loafers in rich oxblood leather, or burying yourself in a good book, like Colson Whitehead's The Underground Railroad, which I'm picking up next.

Whether your Valentine's Day includes a hot date with your main squeeze or a cozy, lazy, it's-just-Tuesday night with your roommates remember that at the end of the day, this lame-o holiday is about love. And if you love cute pajamas, tassel earrings, fancy water bottles (bkr, anyone?) or novelty socks that only cost $4—you're going to want to scroll through all my fun and festive Valentine-y picks below.

// SHOP SOME FUN VALENTINE'S DAY FINDS BELOW //

Monday, January 30, 2017

DO NOT SHUT UP.

Yesterday, Meghan and I took a long walk around Brooklyn. Saturday, as you no doubt know, saw the introduction of an executive order from President Trump, "closing the nation to refugees and people from certain predominantly Muslim countries." (That's a quote from everyone's favorite FAKE NEWS provider, The New York Times.) Saturday night, as I showered and dressed to attend a friend's birthday party, I couldn't stop myself from rather obsessively looking at Twitter—all around the country people were gathering and protesting at airports. Lawyers were showing up. Translators were offering their assistance. Chants were echoing through those concrete roundabouts, "No hate, no fear, refugees are welcome here."

From within my bubbles—the one I live in here in New York and the one that's presented to me on social media—I felt a swell. A rumble was building and turning into a roar. People I know in real life and people I've admired through the interwebs were speaking up, were going to JFK to protest, were posting (and re-posting) emergency information in hopes that their digital reach could help get it in front of the right eyeballs.

I went to my friend's birthday party on Saturday night. I didn't go to JFK. I went on that long walk with Meghan on Sunday, I didn't join the thousands of protestors in Battery Park. But as we walked, Meghan and I talked. And talked. (She also wrote some very eloquent thoughts on this same topic, which you should read.)

Usually we discuss life and boys and work, but yesterday we talked about this ban. We talked about what we thought it meant. I said I had a hope that all this extreme, hateful action from our new president and the extremely passionate backlash from the American people was going to usher in, eventually, a wide-spread shift in America towards tolerance and an embrace of our diversity. She countered that my perspective was perhaps too narrow and idealistic, since what I see and feel is coming straight out of one of the most liberal, diverse and accepting cities in the world (and that social media bubble I mentioned before). He won the election, and that cannot be overlooked. I conceded that she might be right.

Here's the part where this post veers even farther away from my usual content, so I'll give you the option to stop now or get into the muck with me.

// CLICK THROUGH TO KEEP READING //

Monday, January 23, 2017

{ CELEBRITY STYLE } I'M VERY VERY HERE FOR THIS KENDALL JENNER OUTFIT


I have always been very into Kendall Jenner's style. And by always, I mean since she became a full-blown model circa 2014 and started to be dressed by famous-in-her-own-right stylist, Monica Rose. I find her particular model-off-duty aesthetic to be really on-point. While I don't choose to bare my midriff or nips on the regular, I can almost always get down with her layering of long coats over slinky dresses or distressed denim and a great top.

This past weekend she was spotted out shopping around in Paris with her rumored beau, A$AP Rocky. It's worth mentioning that I'm also really into this romance, as I find A$AP Rocky to be particularly deft at dressing as well. For the occasion, Kendall donned a dramatic mink coat—that looks like it could be vintage, but I suspect that it is not because she's Kendall Jenner—over a cropped black sweater and fishnets that popped out from under her cuffed distressed jeans.


Like most fashion-minded women my age right now, I'm dying to find a pair of vintage-inspired jeans like these—that actually fit me. Kendall's look a lot like Re/Done's High Rise jeans (with some additional distressing) but I can't be sure. They look so cool casually cuffed and layered over her revealed fishnets, but I suspect (and know positively beyond the shadow of a doubt) that I could not pull off that look in full. However, you or I could easily fake a similar look by wearing some little fishnet socks with our cropped jeans and some ankle-wrap pumps.


I believe she's wearing this distressed sweater from Yeezy Season 3, but you can get a less expensive, infinitely more wearable version from DKNY or even Topshop. Finally, she's laced a (most likely vintage) Chanel belt bag through her jeans and thrown on some chokers and shades and voila—yet another outfit I'm going to be striving to recreate all winter long.

As another ending note, I'd like to know what I have to do to get ahold of Jen Atkin—yet another famous-in-her-own-right hairstylist due to Kardashian proximity—who has given Kendall a hairstyle I would like to copy, A$AP (ha). Interestingly, this is in fact how I think my hair looks all the time, but every mirror and photograph of myself I've seen lately begs to differ.

// SHOP A LOOK LIKE KENDALL'S BELOW //

Image credits: Getty Images (Pierre Suu) via DailyMail

Monday, January 9, 2017

WINTER IS HERE, LETS GET HYGGE!


{ "Cowboy Cabin" up near Galena Lodge outside Sun Valley, ID }

Greetings from Sun Valley—I was supposed to be on a flight back to New York today but alas, the weather had other ideas. We are all but snowed in here, with more than a foot of snow coming down yesterday, and more on the way this week. Armed with firewood, wool socks and Wifi, we're hunkering down and getting cozy with our friends and neighbors—referred to in Denmark as hygge.

Hygge [hoo-guh]: a quality of cosiness and comfortable conviviality 
that engenders a feeling of contentment or well-being.

This Danish "obsession" has become incredibly trendy over the past year, so with a very cold winter in full swing, now is the time to embrace it for yourself. Brew up some spiced wine, put on your flannel and invite your friends over to sit by the fire in their stocking feet. (Or in the case of our apartment in New York—the Fireplace For Your Home.)

Yesterday, for example, I went for a long snowshoe in the hills behind our house with a couple friends, and afterwards we sat around in our long johns by the fire playing Yahtzee and drinking tea while the snow fell outside. It was very hygge. This exact day would be hard to replicate in New York, but city sidewalks can easily stand in for snowy trails if you ask me!


{ Your hygge starter kit might include: The Year of Living DanishlyThe Nordic Theory of Everything, a crazy-cozy sweater from The Canadian Sweater Company or LL Bean, some long underwear from J. Crew, a mug from Le Creuset (for spiced wine), these intarsia wool CHUP socks, a fleece turtleneck from Uniqlo (for layering purposes), a faux fur throw, and if you're really adventurous, snowshoes and nordic skis! }

The most important part of embracing the hygge life is not to do it alone! Binging on Netflix and HBO Go in your bed is one thing, but making a Saturday afternoon spent inside into a communal event—preferably with hot cocktails—is the Scandinavian way. Go forth and hygge—winter is here!